How'd ya'll come to terms with your gender identity?
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    So for a story I think it really depends on how deep you're planning on delving into these characters personalities.

    If they're side characters you can just do a surface read of trans culture to add flavor to their description, but you don't want to overfocus on it (if you're new to lgbt stuff I would suggest not making a side-character's queerness overly plot-relevant. It comes off as tacky and as cheap pinkwashed inclusivity).

    For example: Erin sits next to Emily and goes to remove her bag. Somehow the conspicuously pink blue and white strap manages to catch her hair for no discernable reason. Emily rolls her eyes and starts to unravel the knots and tangles. The annoyed furrow in her brow deeply contrasts with the doting gentleness in her practiced hand movements.

    It's a bit silly and rough, but above we establish that Erin and Emily have been in a relationship for a long time. References to their queerness are kept to a minimum and are just woven in to how they interact with eachother (the important part). And the facts we can glean from this can be used to provide context for how the rest of the scene will go, why the two of them react to things a certain way, and what decisions they might make. And we can do that without needing to make overt references to their queer status any more than we already have.

    Now if you're trying to do queer main characters, I'd suggest being in the community for a while. There's no advice or story I can give you that will fully encapulate who we are or how we're to be portrayed because every context is different. The same depiction can be pandering or cruel or exceptionally clever depending on the subtle things you can glean just by being around us and internalizing the experience. You can make the world's best attack helicopter joke, better than anything the chuds could do if you can understand and empathize with us innately (I wouldn't recommend it, but there's a transwoman out there who's done it). Like, if you only glean details from second-hand stories, it will be obvious, because there likely won't be any subtlety, even if you're trying really hard.

    A good queer MC needs to have their identity planned out from the beginning, it needs to shape how they perceive characters, situations, their own place in the world, and even facial expressions or small little happenstance details others might not notice. It will affect what they obsess over, how they focus, where they direct their energy, what they value. But you have to be able to say these things without being like "his transness transed his worldview" or "xe just couldn't see [thing] the same way after becoming nonbinary." Like, this is one of those situations where you actually have to follow the 'show, don't tell' rule very closely.

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  • How'd ya'll come to terms with your gender identity?
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    If you hang out with lgbt people more, it gets easier. It's obvious when people are distant/outside looking in and there's a longing there. If those feelings aren't healthy then people will notice. It's best to learn as much as you can from people so that you can see them for who they really are and not just how you perceive them. It opens the door to being friends too! 😊

    Also, nonbinary topics are something I think you could benefit from researching. It sounds like you might be nonbinary, and the enby community is huge, diverse, and has a million different ways of seeing gender. One of those might be what you're looking for.

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  • Transphobes invoke their totally real trans siblings that agree with their transphobic talking points.
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    B-But I'm the default character. You can't ascribe ATTRIBUTES to me!!!

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  • Libs when you bring up neocolonialism
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    It's so good! Less random than S1, but the jokes are satisfying.

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  • posting 'tankie' is the new 'woke' slur on a lemmy instance..
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    I got 11 upvotes on a Ho Chi Minh quote in the clown shoes thread. Was that all you guys?

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    Libs when you bring up neocolonialism
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    It took me so long to get the gif to show up, lmao

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  • I can't believe a video game made me trans
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    Sockdreams.com has better sizing and plus size options!

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  • What's with all this insanity about wokeness?
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    "Woke" was originally a word in the US black community to refer to people who were class conscious. Specifically to be aware of cooptation and trickery by the bourgeoisie and police. Ironically, like a lot of black slang, it was coopted by whites and its meaning was changed to suit their interests.

    Due to the association with activists, it came to mean progressivism, then liberalism, and by that point had fallen out of favor by its original users. Now it just means "thing me no like" for conservatives.

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    gay sex = antifascism
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    Who knew it was so easy to do praxis?

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  • lemmy.ml server capacity issue are very problematic for us
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    My conjecture based on disagreements I've had with them, their goal is to draw in libs so that the marxists actually have people to educate. Without them it kinda became an echo chamber.

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  • Let's talk yoga
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    Capitalists culturally appropriated a traditional religious practice into the fitness industry

    Therefore Indians are culturally backward

    Wut

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  • Even Hexbear noticed libs on lemmy
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    I think some of them are lowkey looking forward to riling up the hogs.

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  • YUGOSLAVIA WAS ONCE UNIFIED AGAINST IMPERIALISM, ARE YOU?
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    I've never used that garbage site, lol. Gross.

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  • Also, use Linux, nerds.

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    Do not allow yourselves to be split along vectors of oppression. Our intersections are stronger together.

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    Pakistan doing great without Imran Khan
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    > Pakistan’s rupee slumped more than 4% to set a new record low as authorities loosened their grip on the currency **to help secure financing from the International Monetary Fund.** > > The rupee slid as much as 4.2% to a record 259.7148 per dollar, after a 7% drop on Thursday, according to data compiled by Bloomberg. A more market-determined currency is among the key demands for the IMF to resume its $6.5 billion bailout, which has been stalled for months. > > Prime Minister Shehbaz Sharif is battling to keep its economy afloat as power outages, dollar shortages, and political tensions threaten to sink the nation deeper into crisis. Loan negotiations scheduled for next week will give officials another opportunity to persuade the IMF to release the much-needed funds, and help rebuild the nation’s foreign-exchange reserves. > > The rupee’s slide this week was triggered by the decision of Pakistan’s money exchange companies to abolish the limit on the dollar-rupee rate in the open market. Supply of dollars among onshore money-changing businesses has dried up as locals turned to the black market, as the greenback was being sold at about 10% above advertised rates. https://www.hindustantimes.com/world-news/pakistani-rupee-plunges-to-record-low-of-more-than-rs-255-per-dollar-report-101674806197873.html

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    > GhostOnTheHalfShell@masto.ai - Democracy at Work (D@W) Economic Update: Surging US Labor Activism > > 30min video > > Some very interesting events in unions, especially with respect to rail workers. Mention of Biden’s forced contract on rail and abridging their fundamental economic liberty to strike. The current state of rail matches the Gilded Age. > > https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=okJ7i-uo3Og > > My own comment is: This is the consequence of #TheScheme as Sen Whitehouse names it. Wealth has succeeded seizing gov.🧵 > > GhostOnTheHalfShell@masto.ai - Biden’s act is itself #fascism lite. By this I mean the merger of gov and corporations, which was the notable characteristic of Mussolini’s Italian form. “Lite” here is meant to indicate the despotism lacks the social violence against marginalized groups so evident in conservatives that is characteristic of fascism, also known as palingenetic ultranationalism. > > https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Palingenetic_ultranationalism > > 🧵 > > GhostOnTheHalfShell@masto.ai - We live with the product of The Powell Memo (#TheScheme) which rallied US wealth to wrest gov into their hands. This is the “lite” part we live with. Through decades of effort, by constructing an entire industry of influence in non profits like the Heritage Foundation, ALEC, Cato, Federalist Society, they generated theory (neoliberalism), then policy (GOP) and propaganda (Fox) that enabled them to capture gov. Bork’s anti trust doctrine is one example . Citizens United is another.🧵 > > GhostOnTheHalfShell@masto.ai - But that scheme set in motion is also the fundamental source of conservative extremism today. It is the ideological foundation of the GOP and is now woven into the owner class and upper management of their oligarchies. > > They are intent on the full version of fascism, a nation run on the terrorism and full threat of violence for all dissent by making an example of out groups.

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