VerilyFemme Now • 100%
This is a tip I learned from one Joe Gatto long ago, applicable to all genders. "Always match the shoes, belt and watch. See my shoes, white. My belt, white. My watch strap, white." Works perfectly every time. I like to match my shoes, handbag, belt, and headband (if I'm wearing one) with all gold or all silver jewelry depending on the accessory color I chose. I did not follow that advice here, but I like this outfit a lot!
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
Giving compliments is fun, but I feel sometimes people think I’m complimenting them for one in return!
Maybe they view it that way, and it does vary from person to person, but if you're being genuine you probably aren't giving off that vibe at all! Now, if you are actually just complimenting them for transactional purposes then yeah, they're probably going to pick up on that. But if you're using a compliment as a segue into a conversation, it's obvious you're not fishing for compliments because you're asking questions about what you just complimented.
The best advice on socialization that I can give you is don't be afraid to express genuine positivity, for any reason. If you think someone's shoes are cool, go tell them, and ask them about that. If they think you're weird for saying so, that is 100% a them problem and there are plenty of awesome peeps out there that will take your positivity and interest in them and send it back your way tenfold.
EDIT: To add to this, because you clarified that your issues lie in maintaining conversations rather than starting them, try to balance giving/gaining information in a conversation, see if that helps. Conversations are a back-and-forth that can go almost anywhere, not an event where people take turns saying their thing at the other person. So if you're in the middle of a conversation and you think you're starting to be a chatterbox, go like "ah but I'm going off again," and ask them something about what they last said. Not only does it show you're listening, it also allows them to circle back to a topic in which they obviously show interest. If you try to ask (noninvasive) questions and prod the other person into giving information, the conversation can't stagnate because you're engaging them on a subject.
Also, sometimes conversations just die. Or have awkward endings. That's not necessarily an autism thing, just a life thing. Most of the time when I think I made a conversation awkward, going back and asking for clarification if I made it awkward is what actually makes it awkward. If you can be fine with maybe coming across as a little odd sometimes, it will take a MASSIVE amount of pressure off of social situations for you.
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
If you want to discover new things, just push yourself to try one thing per week you've never tried before, no matter what that is. It can be scary, but you will find as many new things you enjoy as there are things you don't enjoy. For music, I like to listen to different genres because that lets me explore many new artists with an overarching musical theme that I know I enjoy. So like I know I love grunge, probably not gonna be a hard experience to get into Mother Love Bone. Or I'll pick an all new genre and get a feel for it.
Relatability is a tough concept, because in my experience that's one of the gaps that's super hard to bridge between NT/ND communication. It's not really possible to make yourself more relatable, because others have to relate to you, and that's subjective from person to person because that's something they have to do in their own head. But, I have found the more you try to relate to other people, the more they try to relate to you. So take that how you will.
VerilyFemme Now • 90%
Well at least Creedence Clearwater are still good ol' American boys that support our troops and stand for the flag!!! 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🦅🦅🦅
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
THQNordic and Nightdive have been carrying this sector of gaming for me lately
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
Yeah, it's fucking awesome! Nothing makes me happier than seeing a AAA studio sink big bucks into a project that was destined to be a dumpster fire, then release it as a timed exclusive loaded with DRM for good measure. I really hate that there are developers falling victim to the overall shittiness of the games industry, but I don't know how else studios are supposed to learn that people want to buy games, not lease online storefronts. On that note, anyone have any good indie recommendations?
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
"I just noticed he's a little guy." ~Me, on the subject of my cat, daily
VerilyFemme Now • 75%
Absolutely, it's also completely ridiculous that she seems to recognize that drag can be fun and chill, yet continues to double down on the phobia.
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
I can't believe how effective this is at tapping into our understanding of what's supposed to happen in this meme and applying it to what's actually happening in the real world. The title tells you what it's going to be and even still the message hits hard out of left field. This is how you get a point across.
VerilyFemme Now • 95%
I love how she said she gets along with everyone and still went on to say that it's "impossible to walk around New York City without running into a mentally ill fa***t." Like, who do you think you're referring to with that statement? Because it seems to me she's referring to the drag queen she "gets along with." At least the hypocrisy remains consistent.
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
I don't know how obscure this is because it was on the Skate 3 soundtrack. However, I've never met a person that knew the song, and it's not on any music streaming services, so I think it's a little obscure.
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
I see you picked up on the subtext, don't forget the hand Mario World had in that too (and don't forget to mention the chicken piccata, that's the important part) 😉
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
The best way is to ask questions about something that the person obviously puts thought into.
"Those shoes are sweet, where did you get them?"
"Gnarly hair dude, who's your stylist?"
"Yo this chicken piccata you made is tubular man."
Be engaged and ask follow up questions, people love talking about themselves. Soon enough you've gotten to know them, and you just say hey and be friendly every interaction after.
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
I'm in this post, and I don't like it.
VerilyFemme Now • 97%
going up from -22 to -3.
Honestly Walz getting a bigger poll boost isn't as much of a story when Vance got a slightly smaller boost and is still in the negative.
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
Whoa, is that the lingual ancestor to "having beef" with someone? Why are the Trues beefing?!
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
So are we gonna vote and change that or what?
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
You know how you can see pinned restaurants with their name and a fork and knife icon? Businesses can pay to show their full logo and get priority in search results/what shows first on the map as you zoom in.
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
Yes. It's hard to make out the map with all the pinned ads sometimes, and I've had multiple times this year where it has taken me to the wrong place. Every time that happens, I boot up Organic Maps and get right to my destination.
VerilyFemme Now • 100%
I have never been in a group of adult males that didn't drop everything to search the sky as soon as they hear chopper blades. The "it's go time" part of the brain activates I think.
Probably the first Stones song I ever heard, courtesy of Rayman Raving Rabbids 2.
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15865014 > Hi, everyone! So, I'm moving toward going on estrogen in the next year. Before I do that, there are some steps I want to take to prepare. I'm using an at-home IPL machine now for hair removal, and I'd like to get some voice lessons under my belt as well. The main step I want to take next is _sperm cryopreservation._ My fiancee and I want kids, but I'm not certain it would be a good idea to have a kid during puberty. So, we want to freeze my sperm or our embryos, and I was wondering if ya'll have any resources you could share? I've looked into a few at-home sperm freezing kits, but it's such a big deal to place your fertility in the hands of a company like that and any advice would be much appreciated! <3
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15865014 > Hi, everyone! So, I'm moving toward going on estrogen in the next year. Before I do that, there are some steps I want to take to prepare. I'm using an at-home IPL machine now for hair removal, and I'd like to get some voice lessons under my belt as well. The main step I want to take next is _sperm cryopreservation._ My fiancee and I want kids, but I'm not certain it would be a good idea to have a kid during puberty. So, we want to freeze my sperm or our embryos, and I was wondering if ya'll have any resources you could share? I've looked into a few at-home sperm freezing kits, but it's such a big deal to place your fertility in the hands of a company like that and any advice would be much appreciated! <3
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15865014 > Hi, everyone! So, I'm moving toward going on estrogen in the next year. Before I do that, there are some steps I want to take to prepare. I'm using an at-home IPL machine now for hair removal, and I'd like to get some voice lessons under my belt as well. The main step I want to take next is _sperm cryopreservation._ My fiancee and I want kids, but I'm not certain it would be a good idea to have a kid during puberty. So, we want to freeze my sperm or our embryos, and I was wondering if ya'll have any resources you could share? I've looked into a few at-home sperm freezing kits, but it's such a big deal to place your fertility in the hands of a company like that and any advice would be much appreciated! <3
Hi, everyone! So, I'm moving toward going on estrogen in the next year. Before I do that, there are some steps I want to take to prepare. I'm using an at-home IPL machine now for hair removal, and I'd like to get some voice lessons under my belt as well. The main step I want to take next is _sperm cryopreservation._ My fiancee and I want kids, but I'm not certain it would be a good idea to have a kid during puberty. So, we want to freeze my sperm or our embryos, and I was wondering if ya'll have any resources you could share? I've looked into a few at-home sperm freezing kits, but it's such a big deal to place your fertility in the hands of a company like that and any advice would be much appreciated! <3
For context, I've been on the fence about going on HRT. During my therapy session today, I was talking about some of the fears I have about going on HRT. Up until now, I've been trying to ease myself into transitioning because I do have my doubts and I don't want to rush into the wrong decision. I've been "crossdressing" (what does one call this if they think they're trans?) on and off for a while now, and I've been in therapy about dysphoria for a few months now, but HRT is still a big decision that I didn't want to influence myself toward if I didn't need it. I didn't go by female pronouns, didn't experiment with names, hesitated to call myself trans until I soul searched a bit more and knew. I think that's partially due to fear of being ostracized by my family or affected by the horrible legislation attempting to go around in America right now, or really just rushing into something big like that in general. Lately, I've been leaning toward wanting to go on HRT. I've been searching for clinics to freeze my sperm and I've found a couple of sources for HRT, just to have everything sorted if I decide to start transitioning. Today, when I was going over my fears with my therapist, I just blurted out **"Fuck, if I had gone on HRT when I was 18 then I would just be a woman by now. Dammit."** Right after I said that, I realized exactly what I had said and what emotions I was actually expressing. I think it took me forever to admit it but I definitely want HRT. I want to be a woman. I'm scared still, in many ways, but I think this is the path for me and I want to embrace all the joys and struggles which come alongside transitioning. So that said, I'd like to ask any of you girls on HRT, what were some unexpected trials and happy moments during the process? I turn 23 this December, and it would be amazing if I could start HRT before then. It's doable, I have to hunt down some good sperm banks first because I still want biological kids someday. My main fear right now (and I do apologize to you non-American Lemmy users that are sick of hearing about this) is this damnable upcoming election. I don't believe that team Trump will go down quietly if Harris wins, but it would ease my mind greatly if I knew I didn't have to navigate my transition with a 2nd Trump administration breathing down my neck. How are you other American girls dealing with that? I'm almost at the point where I say fuck it all and live my life. So close..... but do I want to paint a target on myself? Idk. Thanks for reading my thought spew, it helps to get it out in writing sometimes.
Probably the funkiest single from Paula Abdul's second studio album, _Spellbound._ Always gets me in a good mood, I mean in a funky way.
The chiaroscuro shading raises the value of this piece tremendously.
How are we all doing today? I would love to hear how everyone's day is going! Polish: L.A. Colors Mermaid Magic CNL72 Sea Life L.A. Colors Color Craze Gel CNP500 Stardom (The 2nd one is just gel-like so anyone without a UV light can use it!)
I love this color, too :)