Every one wants to talk about supportive they are on sex positivity until some men in uniform knocks on their doors because they are running a website that is available for minors all around the world.

Are you speaking from first-hand experience, or is this conjecture? At least in the US, complying with the law isn't that difficult.

Also, I don't even want to get in the discussion of "sex positivity" being associated with "easily available porn".

That's an odd way to avoid discussing it. Do you think the availability of porn (or prohibition thereof) within an online space has no effect on what kind of culture develops there?

I've considered it, but my skillset isn't really suited to it as a solo project. I can write code, and I have a reasonable understanding of the human factors side of things, but my IT skills are lacking. I'd be happy to join a team of like-minded people undertaking such a project, though.

It's not that I want the threadiverse to deliver porn to me. I'm capable of finding that myself. It's that I like sex-positive culture and think it's a good thing for humanity overall.

As I noted, my complaint isn't about any specific instance admin. Individually, no one should be required to host or cache anything that they don't want to. However, the overall trend of blocking NSFW communities is still concerning, and we should advocate for admins to not do that where feasible.

The design decision to hide NSFW communities from logged-out users also plays a part here. Community discovery is bad enough as it is, and this makes it even worse. Last I checked, lemmynsfw was having to maintain their own patch to fix it, and keep updating it as new lemmy versions are released. Kbin and PieFed also copied this behavior, and I assume Mbin inherited it.

Good to see another public PieFed instance. Any idea if this one allows subscribing to NSFW communities? They're entirely blocked by piefed.social, unfortunately.

Nothing against @rimu (or any other individual admin) for not wanting to deal with having NSFW content cached on his server, but I find the collective prudishness of the threadiverse disheartening. I think it hinders our growth, and fosters a worse culture overall. It's kind of ironic that Reddit, for all it's other flaws, is more sex-positive than the threadiverse is.

Please use it/its and not you/your.

Apologies, fixed.

And yeah it was both extremely dense and just really not meant for anarchists. Again, extremely odd because it was apparently about what insights can be brought from cybernetics to anarchism.

Perhaps the author's intent was the other way around, to connect anarchism and cybernetics for the benefit of a not-yet-anarchist audience of cyberneticists? Or maybe they're just new to anarchism and not familiar with what's already out there. Or there's some missing piece that neither I nor it are aware of.

I tried to start reading the paper, but it was way too dense for me to get anywhere. I definitely appreciate it breaking the paper down for us.

EDIT: Pronoun

I entered my credit card number, why isn't it working?!

Found the centrist

According to the reddit thread, the EMTs called them.

The standard advice is that you shouldn't try to just create a triad (or quad), but instead each date separately. Sometimes triads form organically as a result of this (for example, if you and your metamour develop feelings for each other), but trying to force them is a recipe for disaster, and also comes with the ethical concerns that you mentioned.

Since you mention yourself being the one that's primarily poly, it may also be good to let your partner "go first" with dating people, to try to head off feelings of insecurity. Those can still happen, but it's better if the more reluctant partner can dip into poly at their own pace, instead of feeling rushed into it.

No defense, then? Lemmy is just intended as a delivery vector for shitty politics, shackled to the rotting corpse of the USSR?

ActivityPub votes are public by design, Lemmy just hides the voters from users, while Mbin displays them. Anyone can also spin up their own instance and get access to the data.

PieFed recently added a feature to pseudonymize votes. When enabled, your votes are labeled with the name of a shadow account linked to yours, but only the administrators of your instance know that it belongs to you.

Obligatory ProZD

Fair enough, I hadn't been keeping track of their pace of development. Doesn't look super active.

I'm operating under the assumption that for a while the bulk of new user growth will happen on the existing larger instances, which are all running Lemmy, rather than Piefed or Mbin instances growing faster than them. I think that'll remain true even once Piefed and Mbin are more featureful than Lemmy, unless the gap is really significant.

If that turns out to be true, then for Lemmy to no longer be the dominant software, the existing big instances would need to switch, which wouldn't be a trivial task. Piefed or Mbin could add the ability to migrate an existing Lemmy database, but I assume that it would be overall easier and less risky for them to move to a Lemmy clone than to a different system.

You walking away would be a net benefit at this point.

It’s not that obvious.

At the very least, we're at the point where the counterargument to mine is merely damning with faint praise.

I haven't tried Mbin, and as a Piefed user I agree that it's not there yet. I'm not suggesting that they should replace Lemmy as the backbone software of the threadiverse. However, Lemmy will continue to run in the absence of active development.

I expect Sublinks to eventually overtake Lemmy since it's being designed as a drop-in replacement, in a language better suited to web development than Rust. The dev team also aren't pathological authoritarians, as far as I know. If development on Lemmy were to stop, the threadiverse community's attention and resources would significantly shift towards Sublinks, which would benefit us all in the long run.

I'm not saying that the work you've previously done should be undone. Ideally you would abandon your shitty politics instead of your development work, but I assume that's out of the question.

From the perspective of those trying to advocate for people to actually use lemmy, the instances that you run, lemmy.ml and lemmygrad, are a serious problem. Together with hexbear, they're the "missing stairs" of the threadiverse. We're constantly having to tell people "Yeah, it's understandable that you don't want to associate with tankies, but it's really not so bad if you just block those three instances, and don't mind that two of them are run by the lead developers of lemmy". You walking away would be a net benefit at this point.

Ah yes, I sure am making any effort whatsoever to conceal my identity? Weird dodge there, guy.

At this point even someone as ideologically blinded as you should be able to see that the presence of you and your tankie friends is a liability to the project. Why do you think OP is looking to avoid a "lemmy.ml type of situation"?

Wait, when have I ever denied any genocide?

I don't have receipts handy for that right now, though the company you keep does say something about you.

I do have you on your weird transphobic conspiracy theory, though.

We are, surprisingly enough, not very unified on that point. I used to be a non-voter, annoyed at the anarchists that would harangue me to vote. Now I'm a grudging voter, annoyed at the anarchists that harangue me *not* to vote. xD

Both then and now, I maintain that anarchists should either vote or not, and then shut the hell up about it. The whole argument is just a lot of pointless bikeshedding about the most marginal effects.

I think there's a lot more agreement among anarchists that we shouldn't get involved in or donate to electoral campaigns. We have better things to do with our time and resources.

Politics, activism, and social commentary, maybe? Could be a drama magnet, but it does seem to be a sizable chunk of the threadiverse.