Andrew Taint is "sick of the 'female orgasm.' It's a liberal lie"
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    Had anyone considered that he might be gay? Like one of those "eww vaginas are gross 🤢" sorta misogynistic gay guys? I just get that vibe sometimes.

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    medical woes

    My problem was developing really severe lactose intolerance as an adult, not knowing what the problem was, and making the problem worse for months before I figured out what was wrong and went vegan. Now I don't have the original dietary issue, but I've been in near daily pain ever since and tried basically everything short of surgery - sometimes I'll have relief for a day or two if I'm extremely careful about what I eat and do (no alcohol, no sitting for more than a couple hours at a time, no walking too much either) but the issue always comes back.

    It's gone on long enough to have pretty severe impact on my self-esteem, and being a mermaid girlfriend who can't have sex has been fucking fantastic for my relationship.

    It would be nice if I had any clue how long it will take for me to see a doctor about it. My primary care provider didn't have any estimates, just said my butt looks really bad and I need a referral to a butt doctor about it.

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    medical/sex stuff and dysphoria

    Hemorrhoids are fucked yo. I've been waiting months for a surgery referral for a painful injury I've had for months and months now. Between this and my bottom dysphoria, I feel like a fucking mermaid girlfriend for how much it's killed my sex life. I so wish I could just walk into a clinic or something to get this shit fixed but instead I guess I'll be celibate and in daily pain until my doctor and insurance company figure out WTF they are doing.

    It makes me feel so gross and inadequate and I worry that I'm missing some essential step to getting it fixed. Doc said she put in a referral and now I should wait for insurance to pick a butt doctor for me, but I'm still waiting

    Kinda in despair powercry-2

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    I had a bad dream :(

    stupid transphobic dream

    my friends wanted to go swimming but the river was closed cause of river monsters, so they dragged me to a public pool and I had to choose which crowded locker room to go to (the pool was busy because the river was closed).

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  • Mastodon "leftists"
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    Many years ago there was a downbear button. It's good that we got rid of it - now if someone says something you don't like you gotta engage, even if it's just to post a :downbear:

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  • Trans megathread for the week of September 23rd to 29th. - How to preform CPR
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    There is local discourse over whether the local communist bar that has a transfem night is a queer event or a chaser event, but last time I went way too many pretty girls were trying to flirt with my taken ass so I don't go anymore. I want a irl queer community, not a dating scene.

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  • Does anyone else just DESPISE this guy
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    Came here to post this.

    Don't care for most of his overly-ironic polcomp meme shit, but he makes fun of fascists pretty good.

    I recently saw him in a Spice8Rack (communist magic: the gathering channel) video and was pretty taken aback. He hides his true politics, but I can't imagine a right-winger collabing with a genderqueer communist like that.

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  • Mastodon "leftists"
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    The tankies on Lemmy have moderation issues that leave trans users vulnerable.

    Meanwhile on Hexbear, we used to ban people for even downvoting pro-trans threads.

    Uphold TC69 Thought.

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  • Are you a leftist who is sick of working long hours just so that your boss can buy a second house? Do you struggle finding employment because you don't have a degree (classist bullshit), or have a degree in a field you didn't end up liking? Do you have any personal experience with homelessness, drug addiction, mental illness, or just struggling to fit in with capitalist society? This is like, the one job where that helps *a lot*. Do you have an understanding of the structural issues that cause people to become unemployed or homeless (it's capitalism. capitalism is the answer)? Live in a medium-to-large city where social services exist in parallel with the for-profit job market? Why not try a new career working in **Homeless Services**? --- I've been a shelter worker for most of the last decade, and lemme tell you, it's pretty great. I've done everything from working on-call night shifts, to managing entire shelters hosting 100+ people. I didn't go to school for this, and I had no social work experience prior. I was just some trans girl in her 20s with a little bit of lived experience (living in my car) who answered a craigslist ad, but I stuck with the work cause it's like, hella rewarding and stuff. Most of the job is just maintaining a safe environment for the guests - cleaning the facility, preparing meals if your shelter does its own food, signing people up for services (showers, laundry, beds, depending on program), with a little bit of case management on the side - and they'll teach you that part. Depending on the shelter, you might be busy buzzing around chatting with people (like 90% just being friendly, not even "work talk"), or you might just be chilling, ready to pop up if anything exciting happens. If you work night shift, you might even get to spend the night on your phone while everyone is asleep (depends **heavily** on the shelter). There are some substantial downsides, not gonna sugar coat it. - It can be stressful dealing with people going through what is likely the most difficult period of their life. They aren't normally assholes, life is making them that way. - Sometimes said stressed-out people will have emotional outbursts, that can be very disruptive and sometimes scary or even dangerous. You learn a lot about deescalating angry people (which is actually a really good skill for a leftist to have, if you do any protesting!). - Sometimes people *fucking die*, and you'll be the first responder. You will get good at using narcan and doing CPR. I have a graveyard in my head and have known so many people who died either in shelter, or on the streets some time after I met them through work. I've had people die while I was trying to save them. Sometimes you do EMT stuff. It does weigh on you a bit. **But the rewards are so much more!** - When you tell people what you do, they'll think very highly of you. Our stereotypes are sick as hell and people will talk about how caring and wonderful you are. Try it out on dating apps! - It's peaceful at work today so I spent all day posting. I expect tomorrow to also be mostly chill, so I will be posting more. - I'm in good with a lot of houseless people in my city, and this has been helpful more than once. It's cool having *people*. - Actually doesn't pay too bad. I make about 50k in a large coastal city, enough to pay rent and have a modest living. With my shelter worker bf making around the same, we get by alright in this expensive city. Any other shelter workers here? Anyone in homeless services in general? What got you into this work? Also, does anyone have any questions about what the job is like or how to get into it?

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    Not writing a big essay about things means you can't write cringe liberalism. I just wanted to be late to the party after the CPUSA and PSL statements got posted.

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    So as we all know, it is **impossible** for man to soar through the heavens as a bird does. Any attempt will lead one to be struck down from the skies for their hubris. It can't be done, Boeing is proof of this. So what if I wanted to do the next best thing? I've heard the words "Learn to hack, learn to drone" echoed around these parts a few times. I've tried learning programming again and again, but it seems I'm just not that Type of trans woman. Instead I got really into CAD and 3d printing and remote control vehicles, so the "learn to drone" part really appeals to me. Problem is, I don't know where to start. Do I just buy a $300 DJI drone before they get banned? Do I learn how simulators work and practice a bunch first? Do fpv and bigger camera drones share a skillset? How do I not fuck up when I'm living in a big city? If I already have a transmitter, is that a cost I can save or do drones generally come with their own? I'm also interested in reading about the ways people use drones for *revolutionary purposes*, for lack of a better term. I know local orgs have a need for good protest footage, but flying a drone downtown is probably super duper illegal and the new Remote ID rules would make me copbait if I were to say, sit in the bed of a leading truck and follow a march from above. Drones are super cool, but less so if a cop just shoots it down with his scifi radio gun and then tracks me down and arrests me. By the way, has anyone ever *built* a drone? I already have a 3d printer and a transmitter I use for robot combat. And I'm pretty familiar with drone parts - motors made to spin propellers can also spin blades, and tiny receivers and batteries made for weight-limited flying vehicles are great for weight-limited fighting vehicles. I just don't understand flight controllers or cameras or propellers or how to pick parts or anything. It would also (with dubious legality) avoid the Remote ID issue and my homebrew drones wouldn't be banned for being Chinese spies. So hey sickos, how do I learn to drone?

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    I most often play Pathfinder, with a mostly-canon Golarion setting. I almost always play a woman - sometimes I make her trans, and sometimes I don't. Her trans status is usually based on the rest of their characteristics, and whether I feel it "makes sense" for my character to realize she's trans. When I played a brash, independent sorceror, or a young noblewoman with resources and connections and a supportive family, it made sense to make my characters trans because they were in a position to figure that out and had the ability to do something about it. In my current Pathfinder game, my character was raised in a militaristic cult that isn't a good environment for deep introspection, so I made her cis. When I made my character for Baldur's Gate 3, she was a self-insert alongside my BF's self-insert, so she was transfemme and it was an easy decision. I'll generally prefer to make trans characters, but only if I can make up a good justification to do so. I recently spoke to a friend who primarily makes cis woman characters as part of the whole "power fantasy" that comes with roleplaying, and her experience was a little different than mine, so I thought I'd ask here. Trans Hexbears, are your RPG characters trans?

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    Like a lot of us here, I'm trying to learn Mandarin Chinese. I've been casually doing apps for a while now (Duolingo sucks, HelloChinese seems better, language exchanges are fun but scary) but I recognize some serious limitations to my methods. My reading and typing is getting better, as is my listening, but I still suck at speaking and tones are still hard to remember sometimes. This seems directly related to my learning methods - lotsa reading and listening exercises mostly, not as much talking. If I want to actually be able to speak this language, I'm going to need some more varied education I think. My first thought was to check the local community college - we have a large Chinese population here so the classes are probably good, but the scheduling doesn't work well with my boring adult 9-5. I do well in a classroom environment though. One-on-one tutoring might not be a bad option, but I'd prefer to go through the embarrassment of learning a new language as a group, you know? Anyone else in the same boat? What do you use to learn?

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    May I offer you a cutesy pop song in these trying times?

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