Trans Help, DIY, PSAs, and Resources Thread
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    I got another great one for fashion that @0x2640@hexbear.net gave me :3

    https://transfemme.style/

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  • (CW: Some talk about dysphoria) I’ve got some questions regarding trans stuff as an egg.
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    So, before I realized I was trans, I didn't think I had dysphoria because at the time I wasn't sure what it really was. The thing that ended up cracking my egg wide open was this article: https://zinniajones.medium.com/depersonalization-in-gender-dysphoria-widespread-and-widely-unrecognized-baaac395bcb0

    This basically describes things I've been dealing with my entire life, but never realized could be connected. Once I saw this I started connecting the dots and it was suddenly very clear to me that I was trans. I'd be curious if you think any of these things mentioned in the article apply to you:

    • A sense of detachment or estrangement from your own thoughts, feelings, or body: “I know I have feelings but I don’t feel them”
    • Feeling split into two parts, with one going through the motions of participating in the world and one observing quietly: “There is this body that walks around and somebody else just watches”
    • Feeling as if you have an “unreal” or absent self: “I have no self”
    • Experiencing the world as distant, dreamlike, foggy, lifeless, colorless, artificial, like a picture with no depth, or less than real
    • Being absorbed in yourself and experiencing a compulsive self-scrutiny or extreme rumination
    • Having an ongoing and coherent dialogue with yourself
    • Feeling like a veil or glass wall separates you from the world
    • Emotional or physical numbness, such as a feeling of having a head filled with cotton
    • Lacking a sense of agency or spontaneity — feeling flat, robotic, dead, or like a “zombie”, as if merely “going through the motions”
    • Difficulty imagining a future for yourself
    • Being able to think clearly, but feeling as if some essential quality is lacking from your thoughts or experience of the world
    • A sense of disconnectedness from life, impeding you from creative and open involvement with the world

    Also for context, this is a comment I made prior to realizing I was trans, describing my feelings at that time:

    Hmmmm... Yeah I usually don't think I would be trans just because I don't feel like I have a strong desire to switch genders completely, and I don't think I have strong physical dysphoria. However, I also am (and I think always have been) uncomfortable with my "maleness" in a lot of ways, and a lot of things I'm reading here apply to me. Also kind of related I guess, yesterday I was talking in a discord chat about how in high school I'd sometimes paint my nails or wear this skirt I had, and I was thinking people probably have suspicions with me talking about that. Really I think maybe I'm a bit more non-binary than I feel like I'm allowed to be, but I'm also physically very "male" so I don't realistically know what I could possibly do with that information in the real world. shrug-outta-hecks

    Does this seem at least a little bit familiar and/or something you can relate to? I'd recommend taking the advice that was given to me here, which is to experiment a bit and see how it makes you feel. Maybe try women's clothes, or make up, or just close your eyes and try to imagine yourself as a woman. How does it make you feel? Is it something you would want to explore a little more?

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    Glasnuts

    https://youtu.be/IkcAFnf6nBA

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    Hexbear Gender Survey #2 - Science Edition. Remember to respond even if you are cis!
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    Yeah, this is a great example! Part of the reason why I’d be interested in this is that I’m not sure anyone is 100% completely cishet. I suspect everyone is at least a little bit queer, even if they lean heavily towards certain cishet preferences, and I think that queerness (even if it’s just a sliver) is probably hiding underneath some heavy repression. I’d be curious to know if I’m onto something or if it’s just wishful thinking on my part.

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  • Hexbear Gender Survey #2 - Science Edition. Remember to respond even if you are cis!
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    It’s out of scope for this survey, but it would be interesting to see cis male responses to personal questions regarding gender, sexuality, self-worth related to gendered expectations, and a lot of other stuff. I think just asking the questions could be healthy for a lot of people, and then seeing the results could be healthy too, depending.

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  • Hexbear Gender Survey #2 - Science Edition. Remember to respond even if you are cis!
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    Same for me too. It had been slowly building up for awhile, but once I fully realized, I had to do something quick. I’m relatively old so I can’t afford to wait any longer. I ordered DIY right away and started injecting that magical girl juice weekly.

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  • Trans megathread for the week of September 30th to October 3rd - Sacred Echoes posting!
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    Has anyone else here ever clocked someone because of how cool they are? There's this creator I like who I won't name, but I always suspect she's trans whenever I watch her videos, because it just seems implausible to me that a cis person could make such great content when it comes to certain topics.

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    Hey, you asleep?
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    What's the official Hexbear Party line on the Jaffa Cake "Cake or Biscuit" controversy?
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    Maybe it is a scone, but this is definitely a biscuit:

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  • What's the official Hexbear Party line on the Jaffa Cake "Cake or Biscuit" controversy?
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    Hmmm... You're right. Actually, I think this is what a biscuit looks like:

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  • How are you talking about heavy topics with the people in your life who aren't leftists?
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    I don’t engage with people really except for online. If I’m ever talking to family or coworkers I just zone out, withdraw internally, and let the human puppet I call my body do its thing.

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  • unexpected HRT side effect #8172: why is nature so goddamn pretty now?????
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    I’ve noticed something similar. I think part of it is having healthy functional emotions. I also think that, even though I’m still boymoding, the estrogen combined with having the mental state of a woman means I disassociate less and there’s more of a connectedness with the world around me that wasn’t there before.

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    Western North Carolina and Upstate South Carolina is fucked
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    Glad to hear you’re doing ok! meow-hug

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  • Kris Kristofferson on how his career suffered because he supported Palestinians. RIP
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    Same thing is gonna happen to Chappell Roan 😔

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  • Trans megathread for the week of September 30th to October 3rd - Sacred Echoes posting!
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    This should be my week where the big thing happens. Anxiously waiting.

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  • www.twitch.tv

    Not sure how long this has been running, but I just found it and it's hilarious. I'm sure I'll get tired of it at some point, but for now this is nice to have on in the background.

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    "Megapolis" is Ayn Rand Great Man Theory shit but somehow edgier. It's a flop, but no great loss considering the "auteur" behind it is a sex predator (Wikipedia spoilers inside).
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    I hadn't really heard about this film before seeing this post, but holy shit does it look and sound terrible.

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  • What do hexbears think about pumped hydropower storage?
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    I think hydro power storage is a good idea where it can be done (and especially where you have existing hydro power), but most places don't have a giant reservoir nearby that could be used for this purpose. Something that I think could be a better option for widespread grid storage are flow batteries. These work by basically pumping an electrolyte solution back and forth across a membrane to store or discharge energy. They aren't as energy dense as lithium batteries, but they have some advantages like being able to be used indefinitely without storage capacity degradation (though you do have to do upkeep on the pumps and whatever else). They're already used in places like hospitals and for grid storage in China. These current flow batteries use vanadium, but there's research being done on flow batteries that use iron instead, which is cheap and abundant in comparison. Short video on that: https://youtu.be/mu6mZZuPdpI

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  • We were talking in tracha about doing another movie night in https://live.hexbear.net/c/traaa, and at least 2 or 3 of us want to watch, but would be cool to have a bigger group. We were thinking of watching But I'm A Cheerleader which is supposed to be pretty funny. Here's the trailer: https://youtu.be/HnUvneNxoz8 Should be fun. Also if anyone here has any other suggestions, feel free to throw them out there.

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    Just thought this pic was cool and wanted to share. I also should mention I found the pic is this thread which is pretty great: https://xcancel.com/ninejackrose/status/1836818649421861046

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